If you don’t ask for it, you are not going to get it. If you don’t talk, nothing is going to change.
Those are the most important things that I have realized after breaking up with my ex, whom I was together with for 18 years. We did have great communication about raising kids. We never had a fight or arguments about how we should raise them. We always stood on the same line. We were able to communicate through difficult situations that otherwise would have ended up in breaking up. I don’t know if it was more about the decision to stick together, because we truly were good together. But why were we not able to communicate our deepest needs? The ones about intimacy and sexuality that make us truly happy and connected?